Alright, so you have a hard time saying "I love you"? Not comfortable with verbal expressions of affection? You're not the only one. Some folks are even squeamish about hearing it.
Perhaps you feel that the phrase is thrown around too frequently to have any meaning anymore. Maybe it's something deeper, like the emotional vulnerability that comes with a serious, emotional commitment.
Or maybe you have no problem telling someone how you feel, but enjoy more nonverbal expressions of your passion as well. Whatever the case, here are some simple, completely free, non-spoken ways to tell your significant other how you feel.
Send a Picture
Send a picture of flowers to her cell phone or email. Sometimes when your girl is away from work or home and sending flowers isn't possible, receiving a picture of a bunch of roses on her phone is something she'll think is cute.
Help Out
Help out once in a while in the kitchen or around the house. It doesn't take long, and she'll appreciate it.
Make a Card
Make a card and put it under her pillow. It'll mean more because you made it, and I promise she'll keep it.
Wear That Sweater
You know that sweater she gave you? The one you hate? Wear it.
Pay Attention
When you're out with your girl, don't check out the other girls. I know it seems elementary, but it surprises me how many times I see guys walking with girls, spinning their necks around when they walk by a short skirt. I'm not saying wear blinders, but the obvious staring is disrespectful to your girl, and whether she says anything or not, she hates it. She'll appreciate feeling like she's the only one you're interested in.
Listen When She Talks
Listen when she talks to you. When you listen to her, she feels like what she has to say is important. If you interrupt her, it means that what she's saying isn't important, get it?
Play This
Play Like a Lover on the Surrender album by Jane Monheit. In fact, play her the whole album.
Try To Understand
Men don't understand PMS. Trust me. I don't, you don't, our fathers didn't, and our sons won't. To men, PMS is like leprechauns or the Browns in a Super Bowl. Doesn't happen, right? Well, it might not be a fact of life to us, but it is to her so give her a break.
Shovel Her Snow
If you don't live together, you could go to her place in the winter and make sure her steps and walk are shoveled and salted before she leaves for work. Come to think of it, you should do this even if you do live together. And knock the snow off her car.
Make Her a Cup of Tea
Put it in a real teacup, on a real saucer. Under the cup, on a tiny piece of paper, write "I love you". If she doesn't like tea, try hot chocolate.
Read Her Poetry
Find an appropriate poem (not The Ride of Paul Revere, and nothing that stars with "There once was a man from Nantucket"), and practice it. Then read it to her. Trust me, she'll dig it.
Okay, all of these might not work on your girl, but if none of them work, check her for a pulse.
“我爱你!”这三个字是否曾让你很难启齿? 你是否对这种口头表达爱意的方式感到不自在?并不只有你一人有这种感觉.有些人听到这句话甚至觉得恶心.
可能你会觉得这三个字因为总是被滥用,而不在有任何意义了.但当你做了个严肃,真情的承诺时,你的内心深处反而给容易受到创伤.
或者,你觉得向别人表达自己的感情没什么困难,但你就是喜欢用非口头的发式来表达你的激情.不管怎么样,这儿有一些简单,完全自由,非口述的方式,能让你尽情对你最重要的那位表达你所有的感情.
1. 发图片
通过手机或电子邮件发一些花的图片. 当你的女朋友由于工作而远离家门,你无法送花给她时,在手机上收到一大束玫瑰花,会让她觉得很可爱.
2. 打个下手
在厨房或家里帮她打打下手,不用花费你很长时间,但她会喜欢的.
3. 制作张卡片
做一张卡片放在她的枕头下.我敢打保票她会好好收藏,因为这是你亲手做的,意义重大.
4. 穿那件体恤
你还记得她给你的那件体恤吗？即使你不喜欢，也穿上它吧。
5. 小心谨慎
当你和女朋友出去时,别去偷瞄其他女孩.我知道这是最基本的,让人吃惊的是,我无数次的看到有些人和女朋友一起时,还伸长了脖子偷瞄穿超短裙的女孩.我并不是指戴上眼罩,而是这种太明显的举动是对你女朋友的不尊重.不论她有没有说出口,她会讨厌你这种举动.她希望你让她觉得,她是你唯一感兴趣的人.
6. 仔细听她讲
当她跟你说话时仔细听.当你认真听时,她会觉得她的话对你很重要.如果你打断她,那就意味着她所说的话不重要.懂了吗?
7. 放首歌给她
放首珍梦海在投降这张专辑中的<情人>吧.事实上,整张专辑都不错.
8. 试着理解
相信我,男人不懂什么是经前综合症.我不懂,你不懂,我们的父亲不懂,我们的儿子也不懂.对男人来说, 经前综合症就像是超级杯(橄榄球比赛)中的吉祥物。这不会时常发生对吗？这不可能发生在我们身上,但这是她们生活的一部分,所以给她点放松的时间吧.
9. 为她扫雪
如果你们不住在一起,但你可能会在冬天去看她.确保在她去上班之前,她所要走的每一步路上的雪都干净了.仔细想想吧,即使你们住在一起,你也应该这样做.为她扫去她车上的雪吧!
10. 为她沏杯茶
沏杯茶放在茶垫上.在杯子低下放上一张小纸片,写上:我爱你.如果她不喜欢茶,那试试热巧克力吧.
11. 为她读首诗
找首合适的诗,不要保罗利维尔的诗,也不要以’从前有个男子来自楠塔基特岛’这样的话开头.多多练习.然后读给她听.相信我,她会陶醉的.
好了,或许不是所有的方法都对你女朋友有效,但如果没有一个有效的话,那你得看看她是否还活着.
